Today while sitting in my cozy kitchen with a gingerbread candle lighting my way to write, I smell it’s fragrance as it carries me to a space of comfort and warmth. The view from my window is a vast layer of whiteness similar to that of Narnia. And believe me it seems as though Mr. Tumnus could pop out from behind a tree any minute to greet me, and well if he did I would be pretty excited as James McAvoy is my favorite actor of recent films, providing lots of depth.

Of course when you count the real greats, it’s Gene Kelly, no question, Jimmy Stewart, Cary Grant and Humphrey Bogart. They are clearly genius, not to forget our Civil War profiteer Rhett Butler, played by no other than Clark Gable. And let me say no one can pull off a mustache like him except maybe Zoro! Who by the way my husband donned on his attire last year, and well for the record- he does it the best! One more thing as I’m getting off on a tangent here, but who cares right because this is our free space! These old films bring back memories of a dear lady who I felt fortunate to call my friend. Hi Beverly! I know you’re in heaven and your dreamboat, true love Bob is with you! She introduced me to these wonderful old films and together we shared warm cups of tea and drove around town gallivanting and rummaging through vintage shops. She was quite a bit older and wiser, but so much fun and I think we learned a lot from one another. I miss her and would love to introduce her to my new life as she knew me before it began.

And speaking of that, let’s get down to our discussion for today. Where are you? Someplace where you can just disappear and concentrate only on yourself and the ones you love because today we are going to discuss the subject of intimacy and what the words “You and me” mean to you. I think the joining of those two words can depict a number of things. It could be you and your significant other, you and your furry lap of foot warmer dog or maybe your cantankerous, but lovable cat or snake even, like perhaps the one in your pond that could possibly be a decade old! It could mean you and your favorite flavor. And yet somehow when we utter these words we’re not alone. We feel friendship, companionship, and love right? And it feels good just to say it. We as humans need that feeling of being accepted, being validated and of course the greatest of these is being loved, just counting in this big ole’ world or as my daughters would say feeling “relevant” to others is of great significance to us and enables us to grow and feel fulfilled. Now when you combine those words with delicious libations, then even better.

Last evening was our date night and while out for dinner we chose cocktails which is always fun to pick from a list of special concoctions. I guess you could say, “You and me and a martini makes three” .They were delish and if you ever see “Chocolate Covered Strawberry” on the menu, I highly say, “Do it!”. I want to reiterate to you the meaning of intimacy and feeling connection with people, with our community and today’s society. Merriam-Webster defines Intimacy as “a state marked by emotional closeness” and According to John Amodeo Ph. D. and author of Intimacy, A Path Toward Spirituality, he writes, “A nourishing intimacy happens when barriers melt and hearts open… he also adds in parentheses (while not neglecting the need for healthy boundaries)true, but so unromantic.

I think feeling safe with someone or something is also key. And after sharing our Chocolate Covered Strawberry martini and staring into my soulmates eyes last night while we discussed the depth of our favorite books, that could be labeled as a defining moment. So how about you? Are you in a relationship? Maybe longing for the perfect one like in the movies or the ones written by your favorite author? Or perhaps you have a dream all your own, or you’re in the midst of a breakup and right now your words are poured into your very own crisis journal as you cubby up with your furry friend. Wherever you are in life I will say to you to always keep your heart receptive to the light and never stop dreaming of the kind of intimacy, the “You and me” you desire. So here’s to finding that and reveling in it. It’s miraculous truly. I’m waiting to hear from you! This past week I was thrilled to hear from Miss Limitless! Just the sound of that keeps me in touch with dreams and stars, and reaching beyond. Who are you? Tell me-tell me! click on the date below and say hello.

Till we spin another moment.

Ciao Bella